Course - 05 Activity 6: Share Your Reflection
Think about a situation when your son/daughter did something that you disliked. You felt really bad/hurt about it. Now analyse the situation in the light of these: what they had done?
Why did they behave/say in this manner? How did you react to it? How differently could you respond in this situation?
Share your reflection.
Take a moment to reflect and post your comment in the comment box.
I was very much hurt when my daughter skipped her online classes because of online games...I scolded her and later advised her the importance of studies and the futility of mobile games.
ReplyDeleteIf my ward has done unacepted and undigested things, it will be my duty to think and judge properly in such a way so that my ward may not be repeated same things in future. It will be my responsible to identify them and guide them properly so that they may realised thier guilty.
ReplyDeleteWhen my ward were in teenage , situation was as usual they were very aggressive. Lost interest in studies also influenced by peers My positive attitude and friendly relations with them made me to overcome them from those situations.
ReplyDeleteWhen my ward were in teenage situation was as usual they were very aggressive.Lost interest in studies also influenced by peers
ReplyDeleteMy positive attitude and friendly relations with them made me to overcome them from those situations
I am a strong believer of, "Children are educated by what the grown up is and not by his talk."
ReplyDeleteRegardless of the urge to not let my children make mistakes, I have let them learn from their mistake, for example, if in one test they scored less, next time they know that they need to work harder.
If my son do anything wrong or hurt someone. It is my duty to look after the matter . I will advice him not to do the same mistake. Always give respect to others and have positive response towards everyone.
ReplyDeleteIn this situation, parents should not react aggressively rather handle the situation smartly and try know the reason why he did that.
ReplyDeleteOnce my neice drew something on wall making it dirty all over. It was a polygon shape of star she learned recently from school. At first I was very angry and scolded her for being negligent and naughty. Later I realised that she had done all this in excitement after learning a new figure.
ReplyDeleteAfter few hours with calm voice I tried to make her understand that wall is not the place where one should practice rather it makes house look untidy. I bought her drawing book and colours and told her to explore her drawing and imaginations into that.
It worked as now she doesn't spoil any wall or book which is not meant for her drawing practice.
If this happens, it will be seen, I will try to handle it with patience.
ReplyDeleteWhen my sister skipped her online classes because of online games she became aggressive, lost interest in studies also influenced by peers. It will be my responsible to identify them and guide them properly, so that they may realised their guilty parents should not react aggressively rather hadle the situation smartly and try to know the reason, why he,she did that.
ReplyDeleteOnce my daughter said a dirty word which I did not like because it will affect him in his language so I told her to never speak of such words as these words are not good for others to hear. And she understands it now.
ReplyDeleteOnce my daughter hid her class test note book because her scoring in Hindi was poor. When I came to know about that through her Hindi teacher, that hurt me much and as a result I scolded her without a second thought. She cried and started distancing from me which hurt me more. Through analysing the situation I realised that it was quite a small mistake she made as
ReplyDeleteshe was scared of my scloding. So I said sorry to her and she promised me that she would never hide her scoring in tests even if it would be poor.
I was very much hurt when my ward lost interest in studies and also influence by peers but my positive attitude and friendly relations with them made me to overcome from this situation.
ReplyDeleteIt is very much hurt for a parents when his/her wards do something against their parents.. But being a parents it is our duty also to advice them to differentiate between good and bad things.
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ReplyDeleteIf situation come when a son/daughter did something that a parent disliked. A parents should handle the situation patiently by not shouting and showing anger. Sometime raising the voice may hurt the child emotionally.
ReplyDeleteAnd the parents should try to be friendly and ask the child why and what made him/her to do that?
Parents should advice the children properly.
This situation can happen with anyone. Dont get aggressive just be calm and think how u could handle the situation. Ask ur child as a friend why he act like that and ultimately counsel ur child.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all being a parent we try to find out the problems of the children.situation such as being indiscipline and being rude to parents and other people and not treating other people with respect and not being themself. they behave in such manner because they want to feel free and lack of discipline and understanding . we as a parents , try to not create more problems . we can make them understand and talk to the them about the situation and reason them - IROM LILY DEVI.
ReplyDeleteBeing a parent is not easy, it takes a great deal of effort to do parenting. Children are very naughty in nature but it's the parents to guide them all the time so that they blossom in life.
ReplyDeleteWhen I scold my daughter for not doing her homework on time ,she gets upset and when she gets upset I get upset. Theory on parenting doesn't work . As a parent I'm learning new things everyday.
ReplyDeleteIn this situation, parents should not react aggressively rather handle the situation smartly and try know the reason why he did that..
ReplyDeleteWhen my younger brother skipped online class and go out with his peers friends to PlayStation to play Game or mobile online game with his friends.
ReplyDeleteBeing a elder brother I have to Give Advice and try to take him into right path..
There was situation once when my elder son talked back to me when I had confronted him on playing mobile games and not studying. He answered in a very rude manner and said he wont give back the mobile phone as it is his now since he had been using it for his online classes. This angered me and I tried to snatch the phone from him but he didn't give it me. I shouted at him for not studying and listening to me, to which he too replied back by shouting back at me. I felt bad ,hurt and saddened. Later on I realised I shouldn't have shouted at him the way I did. As he has just entered his teenage years, he probably must have been undergoing all the changes in his moods and behaviours too apart from other physical and emotional changes. Instead of shouting at him I should have talked to him politely and gently. Now I try to deal with him in a very patient manner.
ReplyDeleteAs a teacher/parent first of all we try to know what is the main
ReplyDeletereason of his/her mistake. After that it need to handle through their own situation...
Suppose, if my daughter steals something, I will be very hurt. This maybe because, I did not see through her behaviour and made her learn that taking others things without permission is wrong. I may scold her and give some punishments.
ReplyDeleteBut it is most appropriate to speak to her why she wanted those things, why it is wrong to steal and how it may affect both her and her family's reputation.
If the children hurts their parents by using some unparliamentary words then parents listen to them.
ReplyDeleteValidate their opinion.
Give them some space.
Stay calm and Keep the rules the same.Praise them for the positives.Counteract them hate with love.Get to the root of the problem.
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ReplyDeleteWhen my son scored lower marks in a test I asked him the reason for the poor performance. He never appeared a test again. This affected his studies and preparation.
ReplyDeleteI realised later that instead of negative reinforcement I should have encouraged and appreciate him for appearing the test no matter whatever the result was.
Parents need to understand the emotional turbulance of their children. Being parent we must be the friend, teacher and guide of our son/ daughter. Other than parent who will understand and love them.